Do you have friend? The absolutely answer is yes, but do you have a real friendship? Who are your really friendship in this real worldwide? Are they at your work place, on facebook, or even at coffee shop that you spent most of time together?
What is friendship? It is extremely difficult to describe the true meaning of friendship in a few words. According to the dictionary a friendship is a cooperative and supportive relationship between two or more people. In other words, friendship is wonderful, and much ink has been spilled in citing the virtues of having friends. That’s not to say friendship is easy, though. It demands time and effort, and it requires that people put someone other than themselves first sometimes. But in exchange for that work, a friend can provide an immense amount of support and comfort in good times and in bad.
Friendship, actually, is a spiritual relationship that we share with another person. I believe it is the purest form of any relationship, simply because of the fact that if you truly consider someone to be your friend, things like family, looks, money, or background, doesn’t really matter. Remember, when we made friends in school, like when we were 5 or 6 years old, we never saw if the other kid had a fancy school bag, or, if he was good in studies; the simple fact that he shared his lunch with us, let us play with him, or let us sit next to him in class, was enough to make that kid our friend. Yes, there was no judgment in that phase of life. If you think of it, the bond of friendship built in childhood is the strongest. As you grow in life, you start judging people, and you are judged in return. According to me, “A friendship that is based on judgment is not friendship, it is just a name given to the business you share.”
A friendship should make both people in the relationship happy; both people should have fun when they spend time together. To be perfectly frank, that’s a tall order. Human beings can clash very easily, which is why it’s hard for some people to maintain many friendships. It’s possible that friendship can exist between two people at one stage of life, but life changes and personal growth may make friendship impossible at another stage. It can be hard to meet the people who would make the perfect friend. A2006 study found that people living in the United States had fewer friends than ever, with 1 in 4 Americans claiming they had no one to confide in.
Friendships would not survive without trust. Trust is one of the biggest issues that we are faced with throughout life. True friendships need trust on both sides. We must be able to fully trust this person and they must feel the same way about us. This person will be hearing our deepest feelings, listening to stories and sharing in feelings that we feel we can’t tell anyone else. If we do not feel safe about what we are exposing to them we will never be secure.
Life indeed is a roller-coaster ride, we all have our share of ups and downs; however, not all are lucky enough to have a friend who has held your hand at all time. So, cherish the gift of friendship that God has blessed you with. Remember that you have to earn friends by being a good friend yourself. Don’t judge, don’t slam your expectations. Just try to be a good friend, and you will be rewarded with the same gesture in return. Real friends are forever, but life is not, make most of them now, as there is much to gain than to lose!
What is friendship? It is extremely difficult to describe the true meaning of friendship in a few words. According to the dictionary a friendship is a cooperative and supportive relationship between two or more people. In other words, friendship is wonderful, and much ink has been spilled in citing the virtues of having friends. That’s not to say friendship is easy, though. It demands time and effort, and it requires that people put someone other than themselves first sometimes. But in exchange for that work, a friend can provide an immense amount of support and comfort in good times and in bad.
Friendship, actually, is a spiritual relationship that we share with another person. I believe it is the purest form of any relationship, simply because of the fact that if you truly consider someone to be your friend, things like family, looks, money, or background, doesn’t really matter. Remember, when we made friends in school, like when we were 5 or 6 years old, we never saw if the other kid had a fancy school bag, or, if he was good in studies; the simple fact that he shared his lunch with us, let us play with him, or let us sit next to him in class, was enough to make that kid our friend. Yes, there was no judgment in that phase of life. If you think of it, the bond of friendship built in childhood is the strongest. As you grow in life, you start judging people, and you are judged in return. According to me, “A friendship that is based on judgment is not friendship, it is just a name given to the business you share.”
A friendship should make both people in the relationship happy; both people should have fun when they spend time together. To be perfectly frank, that’s a tall order. Human beings can clash very easily, which is why it’s hard for some people to maintain many friendships. It’s possible that friendship can exist between two people at one stage of life, but life changes and personal growth may make friendship impossible at another stage. It can be hard to meet the people who would make the perfect friend. A2006 study found that people living in the United States had fewer friends than ever, with 1 in 4 Americans claiming they had no one to confide in.
Friendships would not survive without trust. Trust is one of the biggest issues that we are faced with throughout life. True friendships need trust on both sides. We must be able to fully trust this person and they must feel the same way about us. This person will be hearing our deepest feelings, listening to stories and sharing in feelings that we feel we can’t tell anyone else. If we do not feel safe about what we are exposing to them we will never be secure.
Life indeed is a roller-coaster ride, we all have our share of ups and downs; however, not all are lucky enough to have a friend who has held your hand at all time. So, cherish the gift of friendship that God has blessed you with. Remember that you have to earn friends by being a good friend yourself. Don’t judge, don’t slam your expectations. Just try to be a good friend, and you will be rewarded with the same gesture in return. Real friends are forever, but life is not, make most of them now, as there is much to gain than to lose!
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